Enjoying the Day You Have

Posted by on Jul 2, 2014 in Stories

Enjoying the Day You Have

“This is the day the Lord has made;
We will rejoice and be glad in it.”
(Psalm 118:24 NKJV)

Our second son was born a little more than three weeks ago. As many moms have experienced, I was really disappointed that I ended up with a C-section and wasn’t able to have the natural delivery I wanted – not because of any philosophical preference, but just because I was looking forward to an easier delivery this time.

So I tried to make my peace with it, thinking of all the advantages of a scheduled C-section, and then I went into labor two weeks early. We labored at home for a while (one might say I was laboring under delusion or denial) and finally went to the hospital at 11 PM, meaning I delivered in the middle of the night after all, with dozens of items still on my to-do list and the on-call doctor instead of my obstetrician.

I’m a terrible patient, so recovery from any kind of birth would have been tough, but especially when I compared the mythical easy delivery I didn’t have to the recovery I was going through, I really resented having a C-section.

But when I’m not feeling sorry for myself, I have so much to be grateful for. I’m grateful that having a C-section is so easy nowadays; compared to going into labor without knowing that the baby was breech ahead of time, it was much lower risk. Also, because I went into labor early, my friend who was visiting during home leave from the UK was able to see the baby before she left – it probably would have been more than a year afterward otherwise. Since I was so limited in what I could lift and I had to sit and stay put a lot more after the C-section than I did for a natural birth, I had to accept a lot more help. That meant I had a lot of time just to hold my son, and I was able to appreciate the newborn stage more than I could have the first time. I also felt like I bonded with my son sooner – maybe because I was more relaxed with a second kid, but maybe because of all the extra time just to sit and appreciate. I also got to enjoy having my mom around for a few weeks, and my older son got to have Granny around all the time!

Of course there are still things I complain about. (Ask anyone who knows me.) But I try to realize that each day is a gift from God. We rejoice in the day we have, not the day we wished for, and each day has something to rejoice in.

Abigail can be reached via email here.

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